Right now I’m 35,000 feet up in the air flying back from New York City after celebrating my daughter Rose’s 21st birthday. Frank Sinatra was right, New York really is the city that never sleeps and Times Square is like Piccadilly Circus on steroids. There is an energy, a hard urgent vibrancy that appears to fast forward everyone at the pace of Superman on Red Bull! So Rose and I did the things that tourists typically do as well as shop until we nearly dropped. Sustained by cocktails, smoothies and cakes from Carlo’s Bakery (if you are into a carb-free diet this is not a great place to visit!), we managed to cram rather a lot into our four day trip. But, in the midst of this hedonistic pleasure fest, Rose and I decided to visit Ground Zero and pay our respects to those who lost their lives in the US’s biggest terrorist attack.
On 11th September 2001, nearly 3000 innocent people lost their lives when terrorists hijacked planes and flew them into the Twin Towers. Listening to the stories of the survivors and standing on the spot where this human tragedy happened was intensely moving. Rose and I were in tears, finding it difficult to process the scale and horror of this massacre of ordinary people who were simply going about their everyday business. How do people ever get over things like this? Yet there is a fighting spirit of hope that resides in the corners of Manhattan and in the hearts of its citizens. Because just like a Phoenix that rises from the ashes, New York is rebuilding and has already erected a series of monuments that symbolise the will and courage of the people.
The Freedom Tower glistened in the August sunshine proudly proclaiming that nothing will destroy the spirit of humanity. It was the ultimate ‘finger’ at those seeking to destroy. A clear message that nothing will stop individuals from living their lives as free spirits. It was beautiful and heart warming – it’s curved edges glittering like diamonds announcing the pure menace and obstinacy of its strength and beauty.
During the aftermath of that fateful day, amongst the rubble, rescue workers discovered a branch from a tree that despite being buried by the falling debris of seven buildings this branch still had green roots on it. It was carefully tended by green fingered experts until it began to grow into a tree ready for re-planting and ready to return as a symbol of survival to all those visiting Ground Zero. This tree has been named The Survivor Tree and whenever human tragedy occurs around the world, a branch is carefully removed and sent to those in need. It acts as a message that to fight hate with hate is not the way. The only way to destroy hatred and evil is with a loving and compassionate heart.
Watching this brave little tree offering up its branches to provide a metaphorical hug of comfort against the Ground Zero memorial gardens was humbling. When all is destroyed and hope is dashed into a million fragments we need symbols of strength and goodness to hold onto. Symbols remind us that the universe is a loving place where hope, love and peace reign with an eternal glow. When we have witnessed or been at the receiving end of insidious evil it is easy to get angry and wish retribution on those that take human lives with such cold hearts. Yet if we cannot let go of the anger, the bitterness and the hurt then we begin to build a mountain of negativity within us. These negative emotions will ultimately poison our own hearts and the impact we manifest unwittingly upon the world becomes toxic. Toxic thoughts will accelerate the rate of decay within our physical reality. This includes our physical bodies and the energetic interplay we affect with others. Negativity is more prolific that a serial killer because it contaminates, drains and destroys the hearts of those who harbour it for too long.
In my own life I have experienced dark times when my own heart has been tainted by disappointment, trauma and cruel twists of fate. I’m not sure when I first recognised that unless I learned to release this negativity, it would destroy me. At some point I decided to embark upon a series of experiments using apples to show how negativity accelerates rottenness. My Big Apple Experiment (no it’s nothing to do with New York City) has caused a lot of controversy since I introduced it in 2010. People find it hard to believe that shouting hatred and abuse at an apple will cause it to decay more quickly compared to speaking lovingly and with positive intent. If you are not aware of this experiment please check out my video to find out how to do it and the supporting rationale behind why it works.
The question is: If you can affect the rate of decay of an apple within just a few weeks, what impact is negativity having on your body and the people around you? So the ultimate way to give terrorists ‘the finger’ is to let go of all the negativity in your heart and invite love and compassion to dwell within you. From a quantum physics perspective we are all connected energetically so love really will dissolve and render hate impotent.
Forgiveness and letting go of negative emotions is not always easy otherwise we would be able to do this as effortlessly as brushing our teeth every morning. So here are my top tips for releasing negative emotions:
Reclaim your personal power! Recognise that when you hold a negative feeling about others in your heart you are damaging your own heart more. This negativity will be unconsciously ‘felt’ by others. You are in charge of the thoughts that create your emotional responses. So take charge of your thoughts. If they make you feel bad, change them. If your thoughts weaken and disempower you, change them. Take charge of your mind rather than let an imposter hijack your thoughts. Your emotions don’t just ‘happen’ they are an effect of a deeper cause – your thoughts.
Change your frame of reference. Whatever you pay attention to, you give energy too. So by changing what you notice it becomes easy to change how your feel. The most powerful combination of emotions are love and gratitude. When you are genuinely grateful for the good things in your life then you send positive reverberations straight to your heart. To put it simply, gratitude hugs your heart. So take five minutes every day to acknowledge all the things you are grateful for. You’ll be amazed how quickly you change your feelings.
Unblock your meridians! Sounds weird doesn’t it? When we experience trauma, we can sometimes ‘freeze’ and bury the trauma and negative emotions in our body. This blocks the meridians that channel life force energy to every organ in our body. Blocked meridians will keep you stuck in negativity. I have personally found that Emotional Freedom Techniques (‘tapping’ as its sometimes referred to) and/or Timeline Therapy are the quickest and easiest ways to release old negative emotions that have become stuck.
So as my plane makes its descent into Gatwick Airport I am heeding my own advice and opening my own heart to lots of abundant positivity. Why not open yours and together we can leave a legacy of forgiveness into the ley lines of our planet.