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My life has a rather surreal quality to it at the moment and many of my past actions are manifesting ‘Showtime Moments’ that are brilliant fun. Last weekend I delivered my rather ‘woo’ charisma keynote to hundreds of professional speakers at their national conference. I then ended up on stage again blowing bubbles to support the talented Celia Delaney in her one woman show after an evening of several glasses of wine!!!

Yesterday The Daily Mail featured a major article on my life and the work I do on charisma. They choose my controversial Big Apple Experiment as an angle and it will certainly get people talking!!!

Today I am in Berlin at the HR Summit meeting new organisations in a type of ’speed dating like’ schedule to generate contracts for 2016. Berlin is a lively blend of different cultures and reminds me of the iconic 1930s movie Cabaret that was filmed and set in Berlin. When HR Directors meet potential new suppliers they perform a dance of communication that flushes out whether there is alignment and a desire to engage. In my mind I can hear Sally Bowles singing “Maybe this time I’ll be lucky”.

You and I both know that we create our own luck through the power of our focused intent. When you have a goal that consumes your every waking thought combined with the belief that you can attain that which you desire then you engage the magic of the Universe.

We are continually transmitting and receiving information on a particular frequency and that frequency is shaped by the emotions we feel. If you feel angry, frustrated and cross that things just don’t go your way then your vibration attracts situations, events and people that validate and reinforce these emotions. If you feel deep gratitude for what you have in your life then you attract more of the same. You can’t attract positivity on a negative frequency in the same way that you can’t hear Classic FM on the Radio 1 frequency.

So when life begins to shower you with wonderful surprises and positive moments you know that your inner being is in flow and the relationship between your conscious and unconscious mind is in harmony. If life is offering up a different perspective then there are lessons that you haven’t quite learned yet. If you notice patterns in your life, similarities that occur, emotions that you loop through time and time again, ask yourself this question: “What am I not noticing that I now need to pay attention to?”

As I look back on the tough times in my life I can see how each difficulty gave me a gift. As my life evolved so did my own emotional development. Out of my self-loathing I learned self-acceptance. From anger I learned how to forgive. When I was deeply scared and would awaken in the dark hours of the night with heart palpitations I learned courage. When I encountered setbacks and failure, over and over again I developed resilience and mental toughness.

There is always a precious gift in everything yet sometimes it takes time for us to receive it. Nowadays I have learned to stop judging whether something is good or bad. Everything is just life orchestrating opportunities for our own evolution in this lifetime. As with any good, entertaining cabaret act there are moments of poignant sadness mingled with the delicious highs of excitement. It is the contrast, the comparisons, the differences that expand our awareness and improve the content of our character.

There is little point harbouring negative emotions from your past because that simply makes it harder to get the gift, the gold nugget of truth that enables you to transcend into the next vibrational frequency.  So why not take a deep breath, relax and allow your life to ebb and flow with the synchronicity of universal experiences. After all there is no dress rehearsal we are playing the leading role in our own lives. We can decide to go for what we truly desire or we can sell out on our dreams.

Are you ready to come to the cabaret?

The Wings of Transformation

September 23rd 2015 by Nikki Owen | Big Apple Experiment, engagement, vision

What a week! I am running a retreat with a wonderful group of business leaders in Nice, the exotic hub land of the South of France. I am about to work on their energy, presence and generally well-being. My unusual range of tools will enable them to manifest more of the results they want in their life. Coincidentally I’ve just completed an interview about my Big Apple Experiment that will be appearing in a national newspaper shortly. On Tuesday  I surrendered myself to the experience of being styled, dressed, made up and directed by a trendy production team during an intense photo shoot involving apples. Wearing a scarlet business dress with snappy tortoiseshell heels (their choice not mine) I posed endlessly for the camera. My wonderful publicist is creating a tsunami of opportunities that will extend the exposure of my work so we can reach more people – exciting times ahead!

It’s not been easy but my unorthodox approach is starting to attract more credibility as dramatic and sustainable changes are being validated by people and organisations that I’m working with. Sometimes you have to be brave and  jump off the mountain because it’s the only way that you’ll discover you have wings that allow you to soar and fly as high as you dream.

I remember the day when aged eighteen my case made legal history and I walked away from the Old Bailey as a free woman. My life was in tatters. I felt a deep despair that I would never be able to escape the horrors of the past few years. Intuitively I knew that I had to forgive my past actions. Unless I started to feel some degree of kindness towards myself I would ultimately be destroyed. This traumatic period in my life was the major catalyst for The Big Apple Experiment that demonstrates the impact that directed intention, thoughts and feelings have on physical reality. It’s possible to accelerate the rate of decay in an apple by using the power of your mind. So how many of us regularly hear the critical and judgmental voice that continually seeks to put us down, ridicules our actions or simply makes us feel bad? Often we are completely oblivious to the damage we are inflicting upon our body, our confidence and our psyche. If you don’t support, respect and honour yourself then who else will?

Relationships are the quickest way to accelerate our emotional and spiritual development. I work with an increasing number of couples who have lost their connection. Instead of ‘us’ it becomes ‘you’ or ‘me’. Instead of appreciation, the toxicity of judgement starts damming their partner’s behaviours that at one time they accepted even revered. From an energetic perspective when two people are feeling drained within their relationship, they are experiencing something that physicists call destructive interference. When the vibrational frequency of two people is markedly different this destructive interference drains the energy from the relationship. When both people are vibrating at similar frequencies they naturally increase the energy between them. Could this be the clue to understanding why The Big Apple Experiment works?

If we accept that everything in the world is temporary, everything changes and nothing is permanent then it’s easy to accept that relationships change and evolve too. When he or she does something that ‘brings up your stuff’ try asking yourself the question “What am I learning from this relationship that is causing me to grow and develop at pace?” Everything is a learning opportunity. And every relationship you unwittingly manifest will be a projection of the relationship you have with yourself. When you truly accept yourself for who you are and love your imperfections in the same way as you love your favourite things you create a vibration that shouts “hey! I’m ok and so are you!”

More and more people are waking up to a new awareness that their thinking truly does affect their perception of their reality. When you change your thinking you change your entire world. Our energy intermingles and transforms everyone else’s energy to a greater or lesser extent. This is not new age mumbo jumbo but a scientifically proven fact. The Placebo Effect is factored into efficacy trials of drugs manufactured by pharmaceutical companies. Physicists know that if you believe a pill or a potion will make you well then it usually does. If people believe they can affect the rate of decay of an apple through their thoughts then they will. If they secretly believe it is ridiculous then they emit a vibration that will neutralise the impact of what they are setting out to do.

The world is full of people with unrequited dreams, dashed expectations and hopes that have crashed into bitterness because life has dealt them a wrong hand. Well this feeling, this intention and this vibration will be magnified onto that person’s outer landscape. Whatever you have created in your life – learn from it. Whatever crazy issues you are facing then view them as feedback for your own development. Nothing lasts except the memories, the beliefs and the stories that we weave with boundless energy to excuse the mysterious ways our mind replays our innermost thoughts.

So if you feel ready to reconnect with your own personal power, ready to ignite the light within you and ready to own the projections that you refer to as ‘your life’ then come and join the amazing Corah Clark and I. We have scheduled two of our two- day events in November – ignite the Light Within. We can help you to craft a way that is totally aligned with the truth that you hold in your heart. Your life can really be on your terms. Your world can be whatever you desire it to be BUT you do need to prepare yourself for a long and candid look at the intricate workings that weave together your thoughts. For when you think with conscious volition you access a power that will take you from where you are now to where you want to be. When I look back to that time at The Old Bailey,  I see how my life could have taken a very different path. A desire to change, a willingness to forgive myself and faith that the world is a truly loving place, changed my life and strengthened the character of the woman I am today. With the right attitude, miracles can become everyday happenings – if we are ready to look within before we look outside of us.

Wherever you are right now, take a deep breath and allow our connection to strengthen your resolve to be the best you can possibly be. Funnily enough, you are already more special, more amazing than you realise – enjoy your week!

Courage does not walk hand in hand with the absence of fear. As a little girl I used to watch my favourite heroes on television, beat the biggest, scariest baddies who were out to destroy the world and they beat them against all odds. These stereotypical heroes looked tough, capable and totally in control. I believed that courage and bravery meant that you somehow lost your fear and everything appeared conquerable.

Having experienced an abundance of fear at certain times in my life I recognise now that courage is only strengthened when we take action regardless of our inner anxieties. So today is one of those days when I’m feeling scared and I have a compelling urge to escape into the countryside, away from social media and the noise of ordinary living. Why? Because today is the day, my book – Charismatic to the Core is released.

When I sat down to write this book the first decision I made was whether to tone down my views so they would be more palatable for my business audience. What I was going to write about was potentially so controversial that it made sense to leave out the stuff that would cause too much furore or ridicule. Then, once my ego had asserted its dominance over me, my heart softly whispered “write what you believe, write from your heart and write the essence of the truth you hold in your hands.”

Whenever my heart gets involved it usual wins. Two years ago I began writing with a passionate intensity that literally streamed continuously onto the screen. Today is the culmination of the journey of words that have somehow organised themselves into a rather fabulous looking book! (Am I allowed to say this about my own book?)

Today, on the day it is released I suddenly feel cold slithers of fear slicing through my stomach. How will business leaders judge me when they know my past? My notorious trial at The Old Bailey is mentioned in my introduction – will it put them off? Will they write me off as a nutter? My case was a historic and landmark case that attracted a media frenzy at the time and was a turning point in my life. What it taught me was that charisma is not the birthright of the lucky few, it is an attribute that we all possess, within us.  Then there is my big apple experiment where you can see the visible impact of your directed intent. Then I dive into the world of dowsing for auras, balancing energy with pendulums and using some unusual tools to create transformational change.

Then in the final chapter I decided to hold a séance and talk to some wonderful charismatic leaders that have long passed from this world.  People often describe charisma as a transcendental power. At a quantum level we are made up of energy so I thought it would be an interesting experience to see if we could tap into the wisdom from some of the world’s most charismatic leaders who are no longer living. Whether you believe that we did connect to those leaders or not doesn’t matter. The responses were incredibly inspirational and had a deeply moving affect on us all. I didn’t understand what we did that day but the experience shaped the secret that enables anyone to transform their life.

So with my rational mind, I tell myself that I have good reason to fear the reactions I receive about the book. But I didn’t take the path I have chosen because it was easy. I took this path because I have an important message to share with anyone who will stop for a moment and listen.

Charisma is a unifying word and a gateway to understanding the universal principles of our existence and our futility in trying to swim upstream. Charisma is not a skill. It is a deep reconnection with who we are at our core. We are all just strands of pulsating energy connecting everything into a unified field. Charismatic people are deeply connected to systems bigger than themselves. If you have read and understood the enormity of this message then you can know how powerful you are. When you trust your instincts, when you make decisions that are aligned with the essence of who you truly are at your core, life becomes easier.

So to paraphrase the wonderful Susan Jeffers when you feel fear just do what you need to do anyway. If there is something you really want to do in your life and you are not doing it because you are scared then I hope this message resonates with you.

So if you’d like to discover how you can live your life in alignment with your inner truth then you may find my new book Charismatic to the Core supports you on your journey.

Right now I’m 35,000 feet up in the air flying back from New York City after celebrating my daughter Rose’s 21st birthday. Frank Sinatra was right, New York really is the city that never sleeps and Times Square is like Piccadilly Circus on steroids. There is an energy, a hard urgent vibrancy that appears to fast forward everyone at the pace of Superman on Red Bull! So Rose and I  did  the things that tourists typically do as well as shop until we nearly dropped. Sustained by cocktails, smoothies and cakes from Carlo’s Bakery (if you are into a carb-free diet this is not a great place to visit!), we managed to cram rather a lot  into our four day trip. But, in the midst of this hedonistic pleasure fest, Rose and I decided to visit Ground Zero and pay our respects to those who lost their lives in the US’s biggest terrorist attack.

On 11th September 2001, nearly 3000 innocent people lost their lives when terrorists hijacked planes and flew them into the Twin Towers. Listening to the stories of the survivors and standing on the spot where this human tragedy happened was intensely moving. Rose and I were in tears, finding it difficult to process the scale and horror of this massacre of ordinary people who were simply going about their everyday business. How do people ever get over things like this? Yet there is a fighting spirit of hope that resides in the corners of Manhattan and in the hearts of its citizens. Because just like a Phoenix that rises from the ashes, New York is rebuilding and has already erected a series of monuments that symbolise the will and courage of the people.

The Freedom Tower glistened in the August sunshine proudly proclaiming that nothing will destroy the spirit of humanity. It was the ultimate ‘finger’ at those seeking to destroy. A clear message that nothing will stop individuals from living their lives as free spirits. It was beautiful and heart warming – it’s curved edges glittering like diamonds announcing the pure menace and obstinacy of its strength and beauty.

During the aftermath of that fateful day, amongst the rubble, rescue workers discovered a branch from a tree that despite being buried by the falling debris of seven buildings this branch still had green roots on it. It was carefully tended by green fingered experts until it began to grow into a tree ready for re-planting and ready to return as a symbol of survival to all those visiting Ground Zero. This tree has been named The Survivor Tree and whenever human tragedy occurs around the world, a branch is carefully removed and sent to those in need. It acts as a message that to fight hate with hate is not the way. The only way to destroy hatred and evil is with a loving and compassionate heart.

Watching this brave little tree offering up its branches to provide a metaphorical hug of comfort against the Ground Zero memorial gardens was humbling. When all is destroyed and hope is dashed into a million fragments we need symbols of strength and goodness to hold onto. Symbols remind us that the universe is a loving place where hope, love and peace reign with an eternal glow. When we have witnessed or been at the receiving end of insidious evil it is easy to get angry and wish retribution on those that take human lives with such cold hearts. Yet if we cannot let go of the anger, the bitterness and the hurt then we begin to build a mountain of negativity within us. These negative emotions will ultimately poison our own hearts and the impact we manifest unwittingly upon the world becomes toxic. Toxic thoughts will accelerate the rate of decay within our physical reality. This includes our physical bodies and the energetic interplay we affect with others. Negativity is more prolific that a serial killer because it contaminates, drains and destroys the hearts of those who harbour it for too long.

In my own life I have experienced dark times when my own heart has been tainted by disappointment, trauma and cruel twists of fate. I’m not sure when I first recognised that unless I learned to release this negativity, it would destroy me. At some point I decided to embark upon a series of experiments using apples to show how negativity accelerates rottenness. My Big Apple Experiment (no it’s nothing to do with New York City) has caused a lot of controversy since I introduced it in 2010. People find it hard to believe that shouting hatred and abuse at an apple will cause it to decay more quickly compared to speaking lovingly and with positive intent. If you are not aware of this experiment please check out my video to find out how to do it and the supporting rationale behind why it works.

The question is: If you can affect the rate of decay of an apple within just a few weeks, what impact is negativity having on your body and the people around you? So the ultimate way to give terrorists ‘the finger’ is to let go of all the negativity in your heart and invite love and compassion to dwell within you. From a quantum physics perspective we are all connected energetically so love really will dissolve and render hate impotent.

Forgiveness and letting go of negative emotions is not always easy otherwise we would be able to do this as effortlessly as brushing our teeth every morning. So here are my top tips for releasing negative emotions:

Reclaim your personal power! Recognise that when you hold a negative feeling about others in your heart you are damaging your own heart more. This negativity will be unconsciously ‘felt’ by others. You are in charge of the thoughts that create your emotional responses. So take charge of your thoughts. If they make you feel bad, change them. If your thoughts weaken and disempower you, change them. Take charge of your mind rather than let an imposter hijack your thoughts. Your emotions don’t just ‘happen’ they are an effect of a deeper cause – your thoughts.

Change your frame of reference. Whatever you pay attention to, you give energy too. So by changing what you notice it becomes easy to change how your feel. The most powerful combination of emotions are love and gratitude. When you are genuinely grateful for the good things in your life then you send positive reverberations straight to your heart. To put it simply, gratitude hugs your heart. So take five minutes every day to acknowledge all the things you are grateful for. You’ll be amazed how quickly you change your feelings.

Unblock your meridians! Sounds weird doesn’t it? When we experience trauma, we can sometimes ‘freeze’ and bury the trauma and negative emotions in our body. This blocks the meridians that channel life force energy to every organ in our body. Blocked meridians will keep you stuck in negativity. I have personally found that Emotional Freedom Techniques (‘tapping’ as its sometimes referred to) and/or Timeline Therapy are the quickest and easiest ways to release old negative emotions that have become stuck.

So as my plane makes its descent into Gatwick Airport I am heeding my own advice and opening my own heart to lots of abundant positivity. Why not open yours and together we can leave a legacy of forgiveness into the ley lines of our planet.

On Monday, a pallet of books arrived – a pallet of books – books requiring my signature. As I opened the first box and held my latest book in my hands I was overwhelmed with emotion. Looking at the cover, the shiny colourful apple graphic and running my fingertips over the title, Charismatic to the Core, I smiled with every part of my body – I’d done it!

This book has taken twenty years of research and experimentation and for the business community it will be controversial, thought-provoking and simply shocking in places. I have always believed that to get the best from ourselves we need to act as our own catalyst to facilitate continual breakthroughs. This accelerates our potential, our capability and our thinking. No one has ever been transformed by remaining safely in their comfort zone of knowingness. We owe it to the world to keep pushing our boundaries and to continuously  evolve to ever higher levels of consciousness.

Charisma is a unifying word and a gateway to understanding the universal principles of our existence and our futility in trying to swim upstream. Charisma is not a skill but a deep reconnection with who we are at our core. We are all just strands of pulsating energy connecting everything into a unified field. When you access your own charisma you literally access a universal field of possibilities.

My purpose in life was set when I was eighteen and my path has not been an easy one. Would I change it? Hell no! I have used every setback, every obstacle, every experience to define the guiding principles of an authentic and fulfilling life. So this book comes from my heart and is the legacy that I wish to leave to the world. My intention in writing this book is to give a clear understanding of my methods so the reader can improve their own charisma in a way that is easy, immediate and feels good. I want to create change as the reader reads certain words and phrases.

I envisioned a book that just by reading it, nothing would be the same again. Some people may experience this book as ‘too much’ because it stretches and challenges conventional thinking. Yet I didn’t write this book for it to be an easy read. You can’t change and transform your life if you play it safe and stick to the rules you unconsciously constrain yourself with. I know that the person who is ready for what they are about to read will resonate with the concepts, principles and theories. Personal and positive change is then inevitable.

Of course I’m scared, of course I’m terrified that I’ll be written off as ‘barking as a box of frogs’. Yet I knew at the start of this journey that this book needed to be an expression of what I truly believe. Whether it will sell or not had to be of secondary importance to communicating the truth of the learnings I had gathered along the way. I’m offering my heart on a plate. BUT my heart is still beating and it beats with a rhythm that calls and attracts those readers who feel curious, excited and ready for their next exciting adventure.

If you’d like to pre-order Charismatic to the Core and be one of the first people to receive a signed copy on the 10th September 2015 then I will send you a couple of my powerful charisma hypno-meditations as an expression of my appreciation. Visit and place your order – I wonder if you are ready?

It’s been an extraordinary week. I am on a plane destined for Barcelona then onto Gerona to deliver my charisma masterclass to 30 leaders from the oil industry. The booking came from a client who I used to work with when she was at Shell. I am really excited about meeting her again because I remember the passion she gave freely to each new project. Together we became obsessed with delivering life-changing experiences that would remain in people’s hearts forever. This speaking job coincides with my birthday meaning that my pre-birthday week has been crammed with wonderful gifts and celebrations that have been intensely magical. I have an eclectic group of friends who have really spoilt me this year. I received exquisite gifts of Angels (not the real ones) pearls and powder blue jars of starfish (again not real ones).

Then, on Friday evening my daughter Rose called me into the lounge and started playing a CD.  I instantly recognised the smokey tones of my daughter’s voice and was instantly mesmerised by the beauty of the melody. As I listened to the lyrics I wondered where she had found such a perfect song, it could have been written about us ……… it had been. Rose had composed a song for my birthday that she had sang and recorded at my sister’s studio. Strange how the abundance of musical talent in my family missed me completely! This song is the most special present I have ever been given. I was overcome with a feeling of love and gratitude.  This song reflected the close, intense and sometimes stormy relationship that Rose and I share. As the last notes faded away to leave a silence of heartfelt emotion, we heard tiny little chirping sounds from outside our front door. We found a bird’s nest in one of our plant pots. Inside we discovered half a dozen tiny baby birds with open beaks, emitting a continuous high pitched calling, reminding the world of their hungry bellies. Watching their brave selfless parents fetch them an endless supply of wriggly worms despite our presence – was a breathtaking experience. I felt my unconditional love for my daughter expand as we shared this Disney like moment together. A perfect evening that I will always remember.

I enjoy looking for hidden meanings and the significance of different events that occur in my life. I have trained myself when experiencing adversity to look for the positive lessons learned during some of my darkest hours. My desire to live in an utopian world and this quest for eternal bliss often eludes me. The happy endings that you can depend on whenever you watch a Disney movie are all the sweeter because of the hero’s or heroine’s turbulent journey. As they wrangle with enchanted spells, ward off wicked witches and prove that good always triumphs over evil, we know with betting certainty that the girl will get her man in the end. Even Disney feels compelled to put the stars of their movies through some traumatic events. How did Snow White cope with the knowledge that the wicked queen plotted her murder by the woodsman’s axe as well as by a poise end apples? (Have you seen my Big Apple Experiment that shows the impact of toxic thoughts?) How impressive was Cinderella’s resilience when she lost her father and was treated like a slave by her stepmother? Princess Aurora grew up in a climate of fear as her parents sought to keep her safe from the negative intent of Maleficent.

These dramatic roller coaster moments make a much more interesting story and it gives the characters the opportunity to unleash their hidden strengths. Like a glorious Phoenix rising from the ashes of ruin – we all possess the ability to transcend from the murky depths of despair into an ocean of white healing light. Most of us have long since understood that real life is not a fun filled adventure where we feel safe, calm and supported. We  have tough times as well as good times. As Frank Sinatra put it so succinctly; “That’s life”. Yet when the tough times keep on coming and you’ve blunted your sword after slaying another fire breathing dragon, do you find yourself craving a life without struggle – like a chocoholic on a yoga retreat?

Slowing down to notice then experience the genuine natural beauty around us, gives our heart a brief respite from the gruelling rat race we know as life. A sense of freedom ensues when we escape the tight constraints of a web spun from a stunning array of deceptions: “I thought this job would make me feel financially secure”, “She was the woman of my dreams where did it go wrong?”, “Is this it? Is this all there is?”. The frantic speed of life causes the racing thoughts in our head to triumph over the truth in our heart.  It’s when we pause and take a deep breath can we  create the potential for a Disney moment. A child’s bubbling laughter, the cool crisp feel of freshly laundered cotton sheets or a rousing piece of classical music that soothes your soul stirring ripples of unadulterated bliss that last for infinity. Imagine connecting to a Disney moment every day for the rest of your life? Imagine the gigantic leap in your awareness as you connect with the abundance of vibrant beauty no longer hidden in your world. If appreciation and gratitude became stronger within you, what reverberations would be transmitted into every aspect of your life? What really matters to you?  What really matters in life?

Matter is only energy vibrating at a certain level. When hydrogen atoms gravitate together and reach a certain density then the heat generated forms a star.  What if the density of your positive emotions caused the star within you to shine more brightly? You are the star of your very own Disney movie and regardless of where you are in  your journey, your happy ending is assured if you stop judging yourself too harshly. The expectations  you have about your life may sometimes feel like a whip that chastens your ability to feel validated, significant and worthy. Happiness doesn’t have to be a quest because it’s an emotional state that  you can access at any moment just by noticing the beauty in your life.

Many of us live such busy busy lives that multi-tasking has become the latest must have skill for the discerning go getter. Anything that will triple our capacity with what we can physically achieve in each twenty four hour period becomes desirable until the day when time travel is invented. In the past I have been addicted to busy-ness as it stimulated an adrenalin rush that enabled me to complete volumes of work. Somewhere along the way I forgot what it was like to just be. Life became complex. The simplicity of enjoying small pleasures slipped away like grains of sand disappearing  in the gentlest  breeze. Too busy to cook I would say. Too busy to exercise, too busy to meditate. Too busy to enjoy the subtle nuances that can only be experienced once our senses have been awakened from a hundred year slumber. When fate steps in and kisses us with a passion for living our life in the moment, then we become open and receptive to the universal flow of life’s inherent beauty. Just look around you – beauty resides wherever you might look if you pay attention to it.

My plane is making its descent into the sunny climes of Spain………..

I have just arrived in Gerona sitting high up on a rock looking out onto the vast sparkling Mediterranean Sea . Despite the hour it is still gloriously warm and the sun’s fading heat competes with a gentle yet persistent breeze that calls my attention to this pure gold Disney moment. I smile because I remember that we are human – we do the best we can with what resources we have. Maybe sometimes we strive too hard? Maybe sometimes we should allow ourselves to press the pause button and surrender our senses to the joy of simply being alive?

When you are being you, when you are completely present,  you add colour and depth to your life. In the same way that animators give birth to a whole new story, maybe you might allow your story to unfold in it’s own natural and beautiful way.

Quantum Physics explains disengagement

I felt extremely honoured last week when Matthew Bent, Managing Director of Bents  – one of the UK’s Top 5 Garden Centres  –  acknowledged our very own Big Apple Experiment as the inspiration behind the launch of The Great Plant Experiment.

The Cheshire based garden & home centre has set up an experiment that aims to subject two sets of plants to very different emotions. Half the plants will be ‘loved’ with kind words and happy thoughts, whilst the remaining plants will be subjected to ‘hateful’ conditions and harsh words, whilst all other conditions such as watering and fertilization will be exactly the same.

Matthew Bent says that he had the idea for The Great Plant Experiment after attending a Chief Executives Group Masterclass that I was running on Charisma. During the Masterclass I was using the ‘One bad apple spoils the barrel‘ idiom in relation to employee engagement – citing research by AON Hewitt that showed that it takes 4 fully engaged employees to counteract the negative impact of one disengaged and disconnected colleague. I explained that The Big Apple Experiment was created to demonstrate how our negative emotions can accelerate the rate of decay in an apple, and Matthew was pretty astonished by the results!

For the last few years that we have been running The Big Apple Experiment I am regularly asked how it works. Whilst I obviously have my own theory, I generally do my best not to get drawn into any attempt at a scientific explanation – I am not a scientist. On the odd occasion when I have made the mistake of trying to explain how – for over 75% of the people that try the experiment – their thoughts and emotions create a visible difference in the rate of decay of an apple, I have to admit that it even sounded a bit like pseudo-science to me! The great news however, is that all of this may soon be changing!

I am currently reading a fascinating new book, written by a real scientist, which appears to offer an explanation as to how The Big Apple Experiment works. The Honeymoon Effect – The Science of creating heaven on earth – by cellular biologist Bruce Lipton PhD explains the influence of quantum physics, biochemistry and psychology in creating and sustaining loving relationships. Bruce Lipton is a cellular biologist who taught at the University of Wisconsin’s School of Medicine, and later performed pioneering studies at Stanford University.  He is now an internationally recognised leader in bridging science and spirit, and a leading voice in new biology.

In his book, Bruce Lipton explains that what quantum physics teaches us is that everything we thought was physical is not physical. Instead everything in this Universe is made out of immaterial energy, and everything radiates energy. It is a given fact of science that every atom and every molecule both radiates and absorbs light( energy), and because all organisms are made out of atoms and molecules, you and I and every living thing ( including apples), are radiating and absorbing energy (vibrations =‘vibes’).

To explain the difference between ‘good vibes’, and ‘bad vibes’, he describes the action of dropping two rocks of the same size, from the same height, into a pond. At the point that the ripples made by each rock converge, the power of the ‘entangled’ energy waves is amplified, and the height of the now combined waves is greater that the heights of the individual ripples that gave rise to them. This phenomenon, explaining the science behind ‘good vibes’ is known as constructive interference. Lipton then goes on to explain that if the rocks are dropped out of sync, they will create ripples /energy waves that are not in harmony. This energy will not amplify the power of the out-of-phase-waves. It will in fact dissipate it. This phenomenon of cancelling energy is called destructive interference, and it describes the energetic effect of ‘bad vibes’.

I believe this little bit of science goes some way to explaining why it takes 4 fully engaged employees to counteract the destructive interference of one disengaged colleague. I believe that it may well explains why ‘one bad apple spoils the barrel’ and why, when focusing hate, anger, frustration, fear and the energy of destructive interference on one half of an apple, it will decay far more rapidly than the half that is subjected to the constructive interference called love.

When we ‘entangle’ with someone else’s energy, we want the interference to be constructive (good vibes) not destructive (bad vibes). We want the interaction to increase our energy, as well as theirs, not deplete it. I believe that this is why living, and working, in harmony is, scientifically proven’ to be so much better for us all. When we access our natural state of charisma we enable our energy to constructively interfere with others. That’s why charismatic people have such a positive impact on our energy levels.

There was an interesting article in The Mail this week -‘Why health warnings could be bad for your health’ – which started with line ‘It seems you really can worry yourself sick’. The Mail cites recent research at Kings College London who asked almost 150 participants to watch programmes about technology. Half viewed a BBC documentary highlighting, in no uncertain terms, the potential health risks of wifi signals and mobile phones, whilst the other half watched on the security of internet and mobile phone data. Both groups were then told that they were being exposed to wifi signals, which in reality they were not. Nevertheless some still developed symptoms of electromagnetic sensitivity, including agitation and anxiety, loss of concentration and tingling in their hands and feet. A number of them even felt so ill that they dropped out of the study entirely, rather than be exposed to more ‘radiation’.

Analysis revealed the symptoms were most severe among those who had been made anxious by the documentary that warned of the health risks of wireless signals. The Mail article goes on to talk about the well documented research into the beneficial health benefits of the placebo effect, and the opposite damaging impact of ‘nocebo effect’, whereby a harmless substance can create harmful effects. Documented examples include clinical trials for new drugs, in which up to a quarter of patients given dummy versions consistently report side effects associated with those warned about for patients taking the real thing. In tests on blood pressure lowering Beta Blockers, tiredness and loss of libido were just as commonly reported in participants who were given the dummy drugs as those who were given the real thing.

There is now a wealth of evidence supporting the belief that the brain does not know the difference between imagining something and actually doing it. Research shows positive visualisation, or Mental Imagery, is successful in improving performance, health and wellbeing. In his book ‘It’s the thought that counts’ pharmaceutical scientist Dr David Hamilton describes how our thoughts and feelings, ideas and beliefs, and hopes and dreams alter the condition of our bodies, and the circumstances of our lives. Dr Hamilton draws upon the latest scientific discoveries showing how molecules known as neuropeptides link our thoughts and emotions to every part of our bodies, and explains why placebos heal people in medical trials. If a person believes they are receiving real medicine – or even if they simply believe in the doctor who administers it, they will usually get better.

Several years ago I developed ‘The Big Apple Experiment’ as a simple and effective way for people to have a compelling personal experience of the impact that our emotions, thoughts and intentions can have on the rate of decay of an apple. All you need to do to carry out this simple experiment in your own home is to cut an apple in half, put one half in a sealed jar labelled ‘Love’, and the other half in a Jar labelled ‘Hate’. For the next week or two, regularly pick up the hate jar, and download all of your negative emotions into that apple. Focus all of your anger, frustration, worries and fears into that Hate Apple, and really feel it. At other times, and just as regularly, pick up the Love Apple Jar and say loving, supportive, positive, encouraging things to this apple. Involve the family, or if you’re doing this experiment at work, get the whole office involved!

The feedback we receive suggests that approximately 75 – 80% of people who carry out The Big Apple Experiment report a significant difference in the rate of decay in their Love and Hate Apples. Over the last few years individuals from hundreds of organisations that we have worked with have carried out these experiments and the vast majority will have ended up asking themselves the question;

If our negative words, thoughts and emotions can create this level of damage in an apple, what damage are we doing to ourselves, and to those people that we care about most?

“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen.
Keep in the sunlight.”

Benjamin Franklin

The clocks have gone forward and Spring is on it’s way. I’m not having to get up and come home in the dark, and this has had a definite positive effect on my mood. In fact, when I think about it, I am absolutely sure that the clocks going forward have had a positive impact on the mood of pretty well everybody that I have come into contact with this week! So for those of you that I haven’t caught up with yet, and have not yet been infected by my seasonal high spirits, I thought I’d share the secret of the clocks going forward, and my 4 tips on how to make very sure that you get as much joy ( and charisma) out of this event as I have!

1. Choose a ‘Growth Mindset’
At a cellular level we have just two operating mechanisms; we survive, or we grow. A cell can only be in one mechanism at a time. Therefore, if it is in survival mode it is not growing. In a growth mindset (one without fear) we stimulate all manner of life-enhancing hormones that naturally repair and energise our cells, promoting growth, health and happiness. When we feel fear, anxiety, or threatened however, our bodies stimulate Cortisol, a stress hormone that effectively causes us to close down. It takes a lot of energy to maintain a survival operating mechanism, and long term survival will ultimately kill the cell. The message is ‘fake it til you make it’. No matter how unsuccessful or uncharismatic you might be feeling right now, if you begin to act as if (you are successful /charismatic/ safe etc) your brain will begin to trick your body in to believing that everything is happening just the way that it’s supposed to – and pretty soon you will start to attract all sorts of evidence into your life to support that new belief!

2. Watch your ‘Filters’
According to Milhaly Csikszentmihalyi, (how hard did your conscious mind have to work to try to work out that name – or did it just give up?) Professor at the Druker School of Management in California, every moment our unconscious mind absorbs over two million ‘bits’ of information through our senses. Interestingly Professor George Miller, of Harvard Business School states that consciously we can typically only process around seven ‘chunks’ of this stream of information at any given moment in time. This means we naturally delete, distort and generalise huge volumes of information as it filters from our unconscious mind into our conscious awareness. In fact everything is going on out there in The Universe – all the great stuff and all of the bad stuff. Your view of the world is based purely on your internal representations that are entirely under your control! If you believe that the world is a horrible, unforgiving, difficult place to be, your filters, which are controlled by your ego (which just loves to prove you right), will select only evidence to support this view, and will delete, distort and generalise any glimpse of joy and abundance heading in your direction well away from your conscience awareness. The secret is to watch your filters. When you change your Internal Representations, you change your world. Start looking our for evidence that you are charismatic…. And pretty soon you’ll realise that you really are!

3. Listen to your Emotional Guidance System
By switching off our connection to our emotions we effectively cut-off valuable feedback that indicates whether we are living our life in alignment with our true authentic self. All emotions could be categorised into 1) those emotions that feel good (these have love at their core) and 2) those emotions that feel bad (these have fear at their core). Therefore our emotions are like an inner compass that direct and guide our decisions, actions and behaviours. From an energetic perspective, negative emotions drain our energy whilst positive emotions stimulate our energy. Tip number three? If it feels good, do it! Emotions are our most reliable indicator of how things are going on in our lives. Emotions help keep us on the right track, and negative emotions that are stored in the body can cause a depletion of energy levels leading to illness, disease and emotional withdrawal. We can all be charismatic when we are loving life and having fun…. So if it feels good – do it!

4. Determining Your Broadcasting Frequency
Our thoughts determine our emotional response and our emotional response is the criteria from which our brain categorises what’s important from what’s not important. For example, if you feel anger regularly then your brain will be attuned to capturing and storing information relating to and reinforcing anger. New discoveries in quantum physics are indicating that everything is connected by a vast quantum energy field and can be influenced by thought. These laws from quantum mechanics also points to strong evidence that the observer has an effect on reality. Every thought creates an energetic impulse and there is evidence that our thoughts have the capacity to change physical matter. The Law of Attraction is the name given to the belief that ‘like attracts like’ and that by focusing on either positive or negative thoughts, you can bring about positive or negative results. This theory is demonstrated by The Big Apple Experiment that shows your affect upon the rate of decay of an apple. So how does this relate to charisma? Like attracts like. If you start finding other people gloriously charismatic a very strange thing happens…. They will start to find you charismatic too.

I’m guessing that the more scientific and logical amongst you will have pretty well dismissed my brilliant advice well before Tip No.2 – and that in itself is really great evidence of how effective your filters are! For the doubters then, I have three final questions for you!

• What if everything that I’ve written above was completely true?
• What harm would be done by adopting these new beliefs?
• Is it okay with you that I get so much more joy out of the clocks going forward than you do?

“Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakes”
Carl Jung

A few weeks ago I was invited to speak to a Chief Executives Group in Yorkshire. The organiser went to some lengths to ensure that I understood that this group was made up of very senior, logical, industrialists and engineers. He explained that their feedback was renowned, amongst previous speakers, to be direct and blunt, and that they were likely to be ‘challenging’! It was with some trepidation then that I approached the part of my keynote where I was to talk about The Big Apple Experiment. I had devised this experiment several years ago to give people an undeniable personal experience of the way that our words, thoughts and emotions will affect our physical world (in this case the rate of decay of an Apple). At the break one of the more distinguished gentlemen within the group approached me. He went on to tell me that my Big Apple Experiment was really nothing new, and that it had reminded him of concepts and ideas that he had first read about a as a younger man in a book, written by Napoleon Hill, that had changed his life.

Napoleon Hill is widely considered to be one of the great writers on success. His most famous work, Think and Grow Rich (1937), is to this day one of the best selling books of all time. In Think and Grow Rich, Hill talked about ‘the secret of achievement’ which is widely considered to be the inspiration behind ‘The Secret’, Rhonda Byrne’s best selling book on The Law of Attraction‘. Hill expanded upon the idea that our personal success is centred upon our absolute positive belief in our ‘Definite Major Purpose’, and identified negative emotions and thoughts such as fear and selfishness, to be the source of failure for unsuccessful people.

Hill’s work examined the power of personal beliefs, and the role they play in personal success. In researching his 1928 work The Law of Success he interviewed over 500 of the most successful people in the United States, including Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb, motion picture camera and movie projector, Alexander Graham Bell, the inventor of the telephone, and Dr.Elmer Gates who was renowned for his expertize in the use and manipulation of sound waves and electricity.

It was working with these esteemed scientists that Hill observed that every human brain is both a broadcasting and receiving station for the vibrations of thought. Hill explained that in a fashion similar to that employed by the radio broadcasting principle, the human brain is capable of picking up vibrations of thought that are being released by other brains.(nb latest research now strongly suggests that it is our hearts, not our brains that transmit and receive thought vibrations)

Along with Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham-Bell and Elmer Gates, Hill developed a fascinating theory to explain intuition, reasoning that our hunches, gut feelings, instincts and first impressions are all ideas that come from our subconscious mind which appear in our ‘creative imagination’. This subconscious information comes from several sources:
• Everything that we’ve ever learned through our five senses, which stays in our subconscious as unfiltered data.
• Information that your conscious mind has forgotten or had set aside as not applicable at the time.
• From ideas that you have intentionally burned into your subconscious through self -suggestion.
• From bits of information that have come to you through ‘Infinite Intelligence’ from outside sources.

Infinite Intelligence

Back in 1937, Napoleon Hill reasoned that like the radio waves that are part of the electromagnetic spectrum, thought waves are part of the Infinite Intelligence that is also around us and within us at all times. If another thinker’s idea is sending pulses of energy at the same frequency that your mind is attuned to, it receives that idea from Infinite Intelligence. When your physical brain intercepts these waves, the information the waves are carrying becomes a part of the store of ideas and thoughts in your subconscious mind. At the subconscious level, all the bits and pieces of forgotten ideas and information are constantly interconnecting to create ideas that weren’t there before. Whether you call it a gut feeling, or an instinct, Hill said that the reason you don’t know ‘where on Earth that idea came from’, is very simply because it doesn’t come from your experience. It’s not your idea. It is a random thought wave rippling through Infinite Intelligence, which happened to be of the right frequency to become part of your subconscious. In other words, you channelled it!

In terms of ‘Definitive Major Purpose’ and success, Hill explained that a more specialised kind of creative idea is produced when you programme, or burn an aim or purpose into your subconscious, as it influences the bits of information that are related to your aim or purpose, bringing them together into new ideas that specifically support your desire. Or, to bring it bang up to date with The Secret and The Law of Attraction: ‘Thoughts become things – so choose them wisely!’

So, round about 75 years ago 4 of the most brilliant minds of the Western World got together and devised a theory about the secret of success, thought waves, and ‘infinite intelligence’. It occurred to me that if these esteemed gentlemen were somehow able to meet up again today, they might be a little surprised by the progress that their respective inventions have undergone over the last 7 decades. I have no doubt that Thomas Edison would be hugely impressed with Life of Pi in 3D, (but perhaps less so with Energy Saving Light Bulbs?). On the week that Blackberry launched the Z10 I am sure that Alexander Graham Bell would be utterly amazed with the multi-billion dollar industry now devoted to finding faster, cleverer and cooler ways to re-create his most famous invention. Above all however, with all of the progress that humankind has made in speeding up the way that we are now able to communicate consciously, I think that they would be shaking their heads in collective disbelief that next to nothing has been done to explore the incredible wisdom within Napoleon Hill’s work.

The Secret of Achievement is still, much as it was 75 years ago, a secret known only to those who recognise that our intuition is really just our authentic, charismatic self, telling us something important. When you pay attention to your intuition, it is you trusting yourself, …… and who knows you better than you do?

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”
Napoleon Hill