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Posts Tagged ‘Self-esteem’

Harnessing the power of energy

Over the centuries we have become addicted to growth through struggle. Pain is often perceived as a necessary stimulus to growth where individuals adopt the  Friedrich Nietzsche view “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” Adversity is worn like a badge of honour because people often call on their inner resources to strengthen their resolve. Resilience is now viewed as an essential component for corporate success. Yet individuals are still resistant to change within a corporate context because they feel in touch with fear. According to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs first introduced in 1943 our basic needs are for survival closely followed by safety and security.

Organisations going through change initiatives often unwittingly perpetuate a climate of fear and uncertainty. Where jobs may be at risk and more demands and pressures are being placed on performance and productivity this can create a choking effect on their performance. Professor Willi Railo, University of Oslow who worked closely with Sven-Goran Eriksson, Manager of England Football team in 2002 states that fear of failure is a crippling form of anxiety, a negative burden of expectation where people become inhibited, take fewer risks and consequently underachieve.

Consequently, in today’s tough economic environment where organisations and the workforce are being tasked to achieve more with less resources becomes unrealistic whilst the workforce feel in fear of the jobs and worried about the future. Despite competent and robust external influences such as the training and development of people, relationships, organisational culture, processes, leadership teams, job roles and responsibilities it is still difficult to penetrate through an individual’s resistance to growth.

Breaking through this barrier to change and resistance to growth can only be achieved by working with an individual’s own internal influences. To put it in a nutshell, the more positive an individual’s attitude, the thinner the layer of their resistance. A negative attitude automatically strengthens the resistance so it becomes an impenetrable wall of protection.

The biggest impact on attitude is based on 5 key areas that coincidentally are the same attributes that determine an individual’s level of charisma:

1. Self-Esteem – the extent to which we see ourselves as a valued, important and respected member of the workforce. The benefits to an organisation of having individuals with high self esteem is confidence, authenticity and mutual trust and respect.
2. Vision – the extent to which we see our future and can align that future to the corporate vision. The benefits to an organisation is that individuals feel inspired and compelled towards their organisational goals.
3. Sensory Awareness – the extent to which we can communicate with our hearts so we feel an emotional connection with the organisation. The benefits to an organisation is that individuals build stronger, loyal and long- term relationships with peers, internal and external customers.
4. Driving Force – the extent to which our work holds personal meaning so we feel enthusiastic and dynamic in pursuing our personal and corporate vision. The benefits to an organisation is that individuals feel highly motivated and possess greater resilience to setbacks.
5. Energy – the culmination of the first four internal influences will affect the intensity, quality and balance of an individual’s energy. The benefits of having a high energy workforce include high performance, improved productivity, higher engagement, reduced stress and absenteeism.

People with a high positive attitude are people with high levels of balanced energy. People with a negative attitude often feel drained, depressed and apathetic leading to illness.

In 1997 Cranfield Business School authored a white paper – Assessing Energy within Organisations that explored the role that energy of employees is recognised as an important factor in their performance and in maximising their overall contribution to the organisation. Yet 15 years later, organisations have failed to grasp and harness the concept of energy on powering their employees productivity.

Every individual has the potential to develop more charisma, a state that optimises their flow of energy, boosting their wellbeing and enhancing their performance. When people feel in harmony with themselves they exude high levels of energy that impacts on those around them.

Organisations who look at the workforce’s internal influences will be rewarded by high levels of engagement, people working with their heart and soul and double-digit growth that can be sustained year on year.

Yet the old rigid dogma in organisational thought leadership will continue to perceive energy, charisma and workforce harmony as spiritual mumbo jumbo until someone can present irrefutable proof that workforce attitudes can be changed in an instant.

According to data from the NHS Information Centre, the use of antidepressants and sleeping pills has jumped 20% in just three years. Paul Farmer, Chief Executive of the health charity Mind, cited the tough economic times may have contributed to more people experiencing depression. This has enormous implications on the potential (or not) for profitability and growth during these tough trading times. It is now an accepted fact that the morale of a workforce can be correlated and linked to levels of stress and consequently absenteeism.
During adverse times the role of the leadership team will determine whether the business or organisation adopts a fighting spirit or whether employees sink into a quagmire of negativity and fear.
Studies show that leaders who demonstrate high levels of charisma are seven times more likely to create a motivated and engaged workforce when compared to leaders who are equally competent yet lack than presence and impact.
Many organisations experience the impact of a depressed workforce yet fail to realise that depression means a massive drop in overall energy and low energy immediately creates apathy, tiredness, stress and illness. I call this The Rotten Apple Syndrome because the moment you allow negativity to breed, even in just one person you’ll notice that it spreads like a contagious disease infecting everyone.
The good news is that organisations, businesses and individuals can adopt easy steps that instantly boost energy, morale, confidence and motivation. By changing workforce attitudes you will leverage the organisation’s potential for growth and success.
Happy New Year knowing that it is when we are experiencing the toughest moments in our life we are being handed a wonderful opportunity to grow and develop.

Tribute to the Transformer – Mr Paul Wayman!

February 23rd 2011 by Nikki Owen | Confidence

Sixteen months ago I joined a Spiritual Circle, purely on the basis that it sounded intriguing and a bit of fun. Little did I realise  I was about to embark upon a journey of transformation where the unbelievable would appear common place. Paul Wayman ran these Thursday night sessions in his conservatory at his home with his lovely wife Penny and their dog Mya! The group comprised of an eclectic and diverse range of woman. From angelic healers to ghost hunters, psychic mediums and channels, the age range was 25 – 82! I was in a constant state of child-like wonder as I listened entranced to a whole new world of possibilities. Meeting every week and bearing your soul, bonded our group to such an extent that we also chose to socialise together and my Facebook photos shows hundreds of photographs capturing the fun and camaraderie that had grown up around us. For me this experience was extraordinary, touching and incredibly stimulating. My sensory awareness has jumped up a notch and helped me in my work at The Globe Theatre.

Paul Wayman crafted a group of individuals into a connected circle of friends and on several occasions I witnessed that charisma can take on many guises. Under Paul’s leadership, confidence grew, expertise became the norm and every woman’s courage was such that everyone contributed eagerly and effortlessly. Sadly, our Thursday evenings came to an end when Paul decided to embark upon his next grand adventure in Wales. Thank you Paul for a mystical, magical experience that was heightened by your dedication, compassion and belief in us all. These sixteen months have been an inspiring gift having enriched my life so much. I urge everyone to pursue a hobby they know little about and surrender to the experience of learning a whole new skill.

From Psychic to Psychotic – my next ’stretch’ will be working in prisons to see if I can contribute to reducing re-offending rates. These prisoners have given up on themselves and society has given up on them. By giving them a way to build their self-esteem and integrity they have a much higher probability of integrating back into society.
Have a great week and enjoy the slightly longer days, I really feel that there is a touch of Spring in the air just begging to make an entrance so… Bring It On!

Oh Brother do we have talent!

June 10th 2010 by Nikki Owen | General

High energy, the power of presence, determination and passion were all in abundance last Saturday as I sat, riveted to the final of Britain’s Got Talent. I was mesmerised by Kieron Gaffneys dynamism on the drums – breathtaking to witness how the power of presence and charisma transformed playing the drums into a performance of tribal basic instincts when Kieron’s passion and absolute determination electrified the attention of  millions of viewers. From the opening sequence when they hurled one of their group over the judges heads to the last leap of faith, the evening belonged to Spellbound. Thirteen young acrobats who showed artistry, unbelievable strength, precision and poignant musicality in a three minute performance that was simply dazzling were rewarded with the top prize.

 The end of one of my favourite reality shows was tempered by the imminent start of the last ever Big Brother series. As an avid people watcher I am constantly amazed at how this programme is able to deliver so many examples on the impact of low self esteem. This deep-seated need to be noticed is often fuelled by feelings of inadequacy. The pressure of the house instigates increasing erratic behaviour which in turn grips the viewers. Would audience numbers be any different if the housemates were grounded, compassionate individuals that sought to make a positive contribution to the well-being of their fellow housemates? I hope this years winner of Big Brother turns out to be a charismatic individual who wins our hearts and minds rather than a freak that was prepared to do anything in the pursuit of winning. No doubt the production team have plenty of surprises lined up for this last iconic series.

Have a great week!

50 and deliciously happy!

May 18th 2010 by Nikki Owen | General

As my 50th birthday approaches with alarming speed, I was delighted to read that in a study by Stony Brook University, in New York, published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, falling levels of stress and worry, a  longer life and better health means that  life now begins at 50. The study of over 340,000 people concludes that turning 50 marks the start of the happiest time in our lives. Whoopee!!!!!

Interestingly, a close friend, best selling author Lindsey Agness, has just published her second book, Still 25 Inside  and explains how, women in particular, can make every phase of their life as good, or indeed better, than what has gone before. Lindsey is able to comfortably communicate the practical techniques of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) allowing the reader to apply them to their own lives. In her book, she refers to ’self-esteem being one of the eternal drivers of charisma’ and publishes an extract from my  Self-Esteem Gift Box exercise that I use during my seminars – An Audience with Charisma. 

When an individual feels confident and is truly being themselves, they light up from within and become more charismatic. Whatever your age, just be yourself !  Take some time for ‘you’ this week and reflect on why you are so special.

The final episode of Kitchen Sink to Catwalk saw the winner, Sam Hughes, secure herself a modelling contract with the agency Models One. Several weeks earlier I had spent half a day with the contestants at the Globe to help build their confidence. Taking part in a competition like this was always likely to throw up feelings of self doubt, so you can imagine my joy to watch these ladies sweep such emotions aside to ooze confidence and charisma on the catwalk . Well done ladies! It has been a  privilege working with you – may this be the first step in your next exciting adventure!!

 This week heralds the start of my Audience with Charisma Tour starting at Shakespeare’s globe Theatre – the delegate list encompasses a wide variety of individuals from very different job roles and backgrounds – can’t wait – bring it on! 

 We’ve received an apple photo from Daisy who will be 12 next week – she is our youngest apple experimenter. She is so excited by her results that she is trying to persuade her school to take part. I’m planning to interview Daisy for our next ebulletin to find out what a young mind got from doing this study on positive thinking and apples. Daisy’s apple photo is up on my facebook page and shows a distinct difference between the LOVE and HATE halves.

The Big Apple Experiment is generating all sorts of interest from both individuals and the media. What started out as a simple hypothesis to test some of the work by Dr Masaru Emoto has truly polarised opinion.  Several experimenters have reported how wonderful they feel when they announce positive messages and by contrast how difficult they find it to be hateful – and this is just with an apple!  One lady told me that after the first day she could not continue with the experiment as she really did not like having to say ‘negative things out loud’ – it didn’t make her feel good about herself.

 Have a great week!

I’m so excited! My training is featured in episode  4 of ‘ Kitchen Sink to Catwalk’, a new television programme on the Bio channel that begins on February 16th.

Six fabulous women, all aged over 40, compete for a chance to become the next big thing in modelling.

Without giving too much away (you’ll have to tune in on March 9th), I take them on a voyage of self-discovery at Shakespeare’s Globe Theatre,  working on their self-esteem which ends with a dramatic finale!  This emotional transformation, as you can imagine, produced intense feelings as they embarked on a new career.

Whilst the ladies agreed that the exercises had thrown up  ‘the unexpected’, they all found it a very positive process. In the words of one contestant, “There are (so many) women like us who live on a daily basis without exploring the things (tasks) we did today”.